We admire beautiful couples in our foes, friends, strangers and family. From our childhood sweethearts to current persons, most people seem to either run into amazing humans at the wrong moment or pick the wrong persons. This is however too simplistic a view. Could we be part or wholly the problem? Walk with me.
As a young man, I had dreamy aspirations of romance.
Through adulating, my cynicism has ballooned sadly. On introspecting however, I
realize others aren’t entirely the problem. They say, like attracts like. Do
you agree? Look back at your bad and good choices in partners. Did you deserve
the angels or devils that they were? In a way you did. However, this doesn’t
discount bad luck, poor timing and unfortunate meeting with broken and toxic
humans.
While we might wallow in pity, we should seek for better through self-development and healing. At this very moment right now, over 50% of those hitched are considering divorce or separation. While long term relationships require tact, patience and compromise, the human brain is wired to seek the easy way out. Thus when faced with challenges in Paradise, our initial instinct is to run.
With the rise of sexual liberation, feminism, the
blue-pill and rise of the Alpha male makes breaking of relationships and homes
too easy a choice to make. Online dating hasn’t helped things, though for
introverted humans like me, it is helpful.
While our realities, childhoods, conditioning and worldviews are diverse, the unchanging constant is that we have the power over our lives, more so our romantic lives. Others might tell you that you deserve better, thereby robbing you of accountability.
Introspect and consider how your
personality, fears and brokenness have contributed to cracking of your past
relationships. Then heal from your past traumas, become a better person, and as
the law of attraction states, you will attract your like and keep them this
time round.
To more blissful romantic adventures.
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Thank you for your perspective.