Mindfulness, all year round

We have lots of marriage counselors and relationship gurus, yet we seem to be having more screwed-up relationships than ever. Why is that? Of course, the digital age hasn't made things any better. Technology has allowed sharing shitty tales of how men or women are bad. Sadly, most of us are driven by our fears, thus pushing people away or disqualifying ourselves from great opportunities. Understanding and processing your traumas can help you navigate life better, have more meaningful relationships, and realize your true potential. What are Unresolved Traumas? All of us have traumas in our life. It's part of being human. You could be traumatized by an accident, a natural disaster, or anything really bad that happened to you. Traumas are deeply disturbing experiences that we cannot process when they happen. Unresolved traumas are past experiences that were so painful that we suppressed their memory. We do this for self-protection because the pain was too much to bear at the time

12 Ways to a Fulfilling Life We live in a world full of both beautiful and sad moments. Consumption of toxicity from news headlines and social media can send you into a frenzy. There may be no way out of a hole that big, and if you do find a way out, it's likely to be only because of external forces. It is challenging to stay motivated through some circumstances.  Deal With the Negative Thoughts When life gets hard, it's easy to fall into a funk. We become pessimistic. The secret to living an extraordinary life is overcoming negative thoughts and replacing them with better ones. You need to overcome your biases and tap into your potential. Whenever you feel down or discouraged, remember that these thoughts will pass. The ways we deal with those feelings set us apart from the rest of humanity. Get Out of the Cycle of Negativity Life can be a struggle with negativity in it. It can make you feel blue and frustrated. But there are ways to overcome these negative thoughts. Some tho

Human beings are creatures of habit. Your habits determine your outcomes, behaviors, personality, and choices. We could live fulfilling lives if we adopted healthier and more constructive habits.   You can do it Habit formation involves a process through which habits become automatic. You can cultivate new habits and eliminates unwanted ones. Habits get ingrained, despite their harm to the individual. It makes it hard to breaks terrible habits.   Our habits dictate our behavior by causing your mind to act on autopilot.  The brain releases dopamine when you indulge in your habits. Dopamine release feels good, and the brain and body seek more reward and pleasure. The dopamine effect makes the negative habit patterns to be more ingrained and thus difficult to break.   As a cue, smokers reach out for a cigarette when they wake up. Imagine if that person reached out for running shoes, a cup of healthy drink, water, or grapes. The person would be fitter and wouldn’t waste their money buying

When was the last time you saw any of your friends and family, away from your drinking/gossip buddies and coworkers? I went visiting with a relative of mine the other day. They lived in a posh and spacious bungalow, with the grounds covered by cute trees and shrubs. A swimming pool would have made their home picturesque.  In the dynamic and fast world, we live in, getting an ideal home is almost impossible for the majority of the population. The family earnings, costs, convenience, and family demands all put a toll on seeking an ideal home. A home is a place we go to after a long day of work, study, or leisure. It is the abode we escape, albeit momentarily the craziness of life. Sadly for some, the home is the source of anxieties, abuse, toxicity and endless drama. Fortunately, for a majority, the home is the place of refuge.  I grew up in the countryside, our home nestled between two hills, thus the duration of sunlight was slightly limited. However, the forest cover then was enviab

  I remember countless times I would doze off in several economics classes. However, I remember this lecturer who would use history and politics to make the laws of demand and supply and the graphs thereof, more relatable. Economics is a social science concerned with production, distribution, and consumption of both goods and services. Application of economics involves allocation of scarce resources by individuals, firms, government and societies.  Economics is the way we live and how our brains are wired to make the most optimal decisions. Economics explains how we seek the most optimal utility in all the decision we make. However, our brains are also wired to make the easiest of choices and take shortcuts. That would explain why most people resort to addictive habits and substances to get temporary thrills instead of seeking their dopamine rush from work, adventure, seeking new lovers, and pursuit of dreams. Probably fear is an economics function that seeks to reduce resources, tim

Life can really screw you. Or it might turn out like a Disney story.  I met Kev along the streets of Nairobi a few weeks back. He still had his wide grin and bubbly personality that could keep a whole village warm during a winter night. Kev is a kind-hearted human being, generous and an agreeable fellow to a fault. He also had such great footballing skills, I always envisaged him playing for the great Manchester United. He actually had a stint playing for a local Premier league, albeit on a trial basis. As he had no money to bribe some connected individuals, his spot was taken by a lesser talent who sadly had more well-oiled hands than him. So up in flames, went his footballing dream. While he still looked for his 40 years, his eyes looked hollow and haunted. He had the look of a war veteran, like a person who had seen too much suffering, death and had had his soul wrung dry. I was excited to reconnect with by childhood friend and I had some time to idle away, I suggested we find a nic