What are Unresolved Traumas?
All
of us have traumas in our life. It's part of being human. You could be
traumatized by an accident, a natural disaster, or anything really bad that
happened to you. Traumas are deeply disturbing experiences that we cannot
process when they happen.
Unresolved
traumas are past experiences that were so painful that we suppressed their
memory. We do this for self-protection because the pain was too much to bear at
the time of occurrence.
We
block out these memories because they are too painful for us to deal with in real-time.
Many people experience unresolved traumas during childhood, leading to low
self-esteem and poor self-worth as adults.
These
unresolved traumas become toxic baggage we carry around wherever we go.
Eventually, they affect our behavior and cause negative emotions like fear,
anxiety, anger, and sadness.
How Difficult Childhoods Cause Deep-Seated Traumas
The
world is full of people who have had difficult childhoods. Many of them have
faced abuse and neglect, and some have lost their parents at a young age. These
traumas can lead to long-term emotional problems and even physical ailments.
Unresolved traumas are often the most common and severe because they are buried
deep inside us and may become unconscious. They affect our behaviors and relationships
with others and ourselves.
Unresolved
childhood traumas result from the emotional wounds we carry with us from
childhood and through adulthood. These wounds can be caused by abuse, neglect,
or abandonment.
Effect of Unresolved Childhood Traumas on Adult Life
Trauma
is a difficult experience to process and deal with. It can be overwhelming and
even debilitating. Horrible events do not always cause traumas, but sometimes
small things that don't seem like much of a big deal leave an imprint on your
psyche.
When
we don't deal with our traumas, they repeatedly show up in our lives in
different forms. For example, if you were bullied as a child, you might be
afraid of confrontation as an adult or become a bully yourself when provoked by
someone else.
Traumas
from childhood often stay with us throughout our lives, affecting our
relationships and sense of well-being. Trauma can also affect our ability to
process new information and make decisions. You may also have issues with anger
and rage, which could lead to problems at work or school or even legal trouble.
If
you have unresolved childhood trauma, it can affect your life. You may have
difficulty trusting others and forming relationships because you don't feel
safe in intimate situations. You may struggle with depression or anxiety
because the trauma has left you feeling hopeless and helpless.
Trauma
can cause PTSD and other mental health issues, including depression and
anxiety. If you experience these symptoms after an adverse event, it is important
to seek help.
These
experiences can create deep-seated emotional wounds. They often lead to
self-destructive behaviors that can negatively affect your life.
If
you're wondering if you have unresolved traumas, here are some signs;
- You have trouble trusting other people
- You struggle with setting boundaries in relationships
- You have problems managing emotions and feelings
- You feel like your life lacks meaning or purpose
Benefits of Processing and Dealing With Trauma
Processing
and dealing with trauma is a powerful way to move beyond the past, improve
relationships, and have a fulfilling life. Processing your traumas can help you
heal and feel better about yourself. It will allow you to move forward with
your life instead of being stuck in the past.
When
you process your trauma, you understand what happened to you, why it happened
and how it has affected your life. This knowledge helps you move forward and
overcome the effects of your past so that they don't continue to affect you in
the present.
We
can come to terms with what happened and begin to heal through processing. When
we don't process our trauma, our minds will do it for us. It will do this
through nightmares, flashbacks, and bad memories. These are all signs that we
need help processing our trauma so it can heal.
Other
benefits to processing trauma include;
- It will help you heal emotionally to feel better about yourself and others around you.
- Improvement in mood and sense of well-being
- You'll feel less stressed, anxious, and depressed
- You will be able to manage your emotions better
- You will have more confidence in yourself
- You'll have more energy to deal with the everyday stresses of life (e.g., work, relationships, etc.)
- Improved relationships with others
- Helping in making new decisions regarding how we want our life to be now and in the future
- Processing any other unresolved issues contributing to current problems, personality, fears, or outcomes
Processing Trauma
Embarking
on a self-awareness journey, speaking with a counselor, or joining a tribe of
men/women can help you process trauma. The socio-cultural dynamics may impact
the strategy chosen, but consciously choosing to address deep-seated issues is
a great place to start.
Journaling,
talk therapy, or picking new hobbies can also help. You may also consider
confronting your abusive or abandoning guardian/parent if it is safe. You can
also write letters you either post or don't. It might feel silly at first, but
writing helps you get all those thoughts out of your head to no longer weigh on
your mind so heavily.
You
can walk into a forest or gym and scream it out or vent to a stranger in a bar.
Pick up new hobbies like dancing or singing that allow you to express yourself
differently.
Don't Have a Victim Mindset
To
effectively deal with trauma, don't hold a pity party. A victim mindset only
entrenches the trauma but doesn't solve much. Instead, you should focus on how
you can improve your life and make things better for yourself and others around
you.
Focus
on what you want for yourself and how you can achieve those things. The more
positive energy you put out into this world, the more positive energy will come
back to you! Focus on what you have control over now. Focus on your thoughts
and actions in the present moment - instead of dwelling on what happened in the
past.
Acceptance Helps
Acceptance
of what happened to you is one of the most important things you need to do when
processing trauma. You must also accept that it was not your fault. This can be
difficult because we often blame ourselves for everything bad that happens in
our lives. However, if we want to heal, we must let go of these negative
beliefs and learn new ways of thinking about ourselves and our world.
Start Your Healing Journey Today
Get
started today if you want to get past your traumas and avoid their limitations
on your life. You will experience better relationships, a better quality of
life, and an improved sense of self-worth. Your healing journey will also help
you develop new self-awareness, emotional regulation, mindfulness, and
self-compassion skills. Get Started today and enjoy the best life has to offer.
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